Shay+la Counseling LLC

You may be feeling anxious, stuck in similar relationship cycles, finding yourself over-giving, shutting down when things get emotionally close, or choosing unavailable partners. Often these patterns are rooted in early attachment experiences or past relational wounds that continue to shape how we understand closeness, safety, vulnerability, and connect today. If you want to understand your relationship patterns on a deeper level and create more secure, fulfilling connections I’m here to help. I work with clients who are insightful, high functioning adults who still find themselves repeating the same dynamics in relationships or in survival mode. My expertise includes supporting adults understand and change the relationship patterns that keep them feeling stuck. My work focuses on attachment, relational trauma, and the ways past experiences continue to influence how we connect with others today. With over 10 years of experience and specialized EMDR training, I use a combination approach of relational attachment-focused therapy and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). EMDR can help reduce the intensity of past experiences so you can respond to the present with more clarity and choice. Therapy with me is relatable, compassionate, and direct. I value creating a space where you feel understood while also being gently challenged to explore the patterns that keep showing up in your life and relationships. When I'm not working, I love traveling to new places with my Wife and teens, exploring new foods, reading, staying active, horseback riding, ice-skating, and seeking out the nearest beach to relax and recharge.